Seizing back control

Single mother Guo Jia, 40, is one of the legions of independent women challenging traditional stereotypes and forging their own paths.

She is not only the founder of Shomiux, a cultural communications company, but also the leader of Mei Club, a female club in Beijing.

Her transition from married life to an independent entrepreneur and single mother reflects women's changing perceptions about family, success, and self-worth in modern China.

Guo's decision to divorce in 2019 was not made lightly. She recalls weighing the "cost-effectiveness" of her marriage, realizing that while she had grown and evolved, her partner had remained stagnant. With differing values, she found herself unable to accept the status quo.

"I believe in aligning actions with beliefs. If our mindsets don't match, forcing it only leads to more pain," said Guo.

Post-divorce, Guo had to reconstruct her life financially and emotionally, and also as a mother to her now 8-year-old son.

She took her passion for women's empowerment and transformed it into a business. What started in 2017 as a personal quest, had by 2024 become a full-fledged operation with 80 employees.

Becoming a business leader was fueled by a strong sense of purpose, she said. "Freedom is not just a legal status; it's also a social and emotional state. The label of 'single mother' carries weight, but I see it as a badge of courage. It means I had the strength to walk away from a situation that no longer served me."

She acknowledges the challenges single mothers face. "People often assume we are struggling or pitiful, but I refuse to accept that narrative. I control my own life," said Guo.

Therapy and a strong support network have helped her, ensuring she remains mentally strong for herself and her child.

Guo's women's club, meanwhile, caters to women aged 30 to 45, whether single, married, or divorced. The goal is mutual support and growth.

"One member came to us devastated after her husband cheated and financially exploited her. Over time, she transformed into a confident, independent woman. Watching her journey also made me stronger," said Guo.

The club provides networking, career development, and emotional support through events and mentorship. "It's not about rejecting men or marriage; it's about being independent enough to choose what's best for yourself," said Guo.

For her son, Guo aims to lead by example. She balances work and parenting, ensuring he spends time with both his parents while maintaining her own space.

Her ultimate message to other single mothers is one of self-love and resilience. She believes single mothers are not defined by their marital status but by their strength, ambition, and the lives they choose to build.

"Being a single mother is not a setback — it's a choice, a testament to strength, and a different way of living. We don't need to prove anything to the world; we just need to live fully, love ourselves, and show the next generation that independence and happiness can go hand in hand," said Guo.